Here at Quality Family Care we understand the need for open communication and time well spent with your loved ones.
There is nothing more valuable than relaxing at the dining room table with those most important to you, recollecting about the time Uncle Marco accidentally dumped the Thanksgiving pie right onto Grandpa’s new sweater, that amazing family fishing vacation in the Bahamas, or the day little Johnny hid a lizard in the pantry. But when the discussion transforms into something controversial, like the probability that an aging loved one might need to take into consideration a different lifestyle plan or surrendering the car keys due to safety concerns, that sense of togetherness can turn into one of remorse and regret instead.
When a tough family discussion needs to happen, these QFC tips can help make sure that a more effective outcome will prevail, and hopefully spare someone’s feelings along the way:
Make certain the issues are valid. Monitor for yourself whether an elderly loved one genuinely is having a tough time in a specific area, instead of relying on word of mouth.
Preserve a tone of loving support. Confrontational pessimism will harvest a far different outcome than an approach laced with affection and consideration.
Utilize reflective listening methods. Rewording what you have heard a loved one say verifies that you were paying attention and legitimizes their sentiments.
Permit an open discussion. As opposed to just stating your thoughts, welcome your loved one to share their input and perceptions, integrate their wishes, considering that they do not jeopardize the well-being of your aging family member.
Incorporate other family members or loved ones. A certain friend, family or pastor/church member can help moderate the conversation and offer a helpful and trusted point of view in the eyes of your family member.
If you or a loved one needs in-home assistance, contact our family here at Quality Family Care. Our care-giving specialists are standing by with tip and advise to help you take the next step. It’s not easy asking for help, but you deserve the peace of mind that our team can provide. Also check out our blog section at www.QualityFamilyCare.com with all the information you need to help keep your family safe and secure during this transition. Call us toll-free at 877-513-7156 to speak with a specialist. You are not alone.
You can see more tips and advice for helping with difficult family conversations here at AARP’s website.